This is a meme from The Broke and the Bookish. For info about the topics and how to participate, click here.I’ve taken the ten out of the title, because there’s one big major reason why I love being a blogger and a reader — and that is the group of friends that I’ve made this way.
Let me start by saying that, yes, internet friendships are difficult to judge. You’re obviously not talking to the person, tone is lost, and it takes a lot of trust to get close to them. Sometimes you make mistakes. You think you’re close to someone and then you apparently overstep their boundaries. And then there’s drama. And cold-shoulder treatment. But to be fair, I’m used to this in real life too.
Much like Katniss, I suck in the friendship arena. What I value above all in friendships is loyalty and honesty. In today’s society, that kind of means you’re doomed. So many fake people in the world. I easily see through their lies and end up hurt. Or over time it becomes clear that they don’t value your friendship. You’re left by the wayside. Trust is a big thing for me. So it’s probably no surprise that my circle of friends is extremely small. But I don’t want your pity. Today I want to talk about the amazing gift blogging gave me: amazing friends.
Blogging opens up an international network. I don’t easily get along with the people in my direct vicinity. In fact, I fail at friendships with people my age most of the time, because while I am still a university student, I don’t care for partying, heavy drinking, hook ups, etc. Put me in a club and I am miserable. People my age, in my area, in my classes? They really don’t get that. “How could ANYONE not care for partying? You’d rather stay home and read a book? Ew. So boring. You hermit. Oh, you’re on Twitter? …Ugh.”
Well, news flash: I’m not alone. No, via blogging, I’ve met so many people like me – to whom partying is a rare thing, and a night with a book and a cup of tea sounds like heaven. Readers are not boring shut ins. They are intelligent, compassionate, emotional, and social in their own way, on their own time. They are introspective and, through reading so many books, have a great understanding of the human condition. If I have a problem, I’m feeling down, or I’m troubled by something, give me a reader to vent to, because I know they’re likely to understand and give good advice.
It’s not always easy, though. The person is sitting thousands of miles away, behind a computer. You may not even really know what they look like. (Some people still think I’m a tiny orange, bah.) Contact via internet is also easy and rather effortless, so whether the friendship actually means something to them can be difficult to judge. But with others you know instantly. You click. You may not even talk that much, but through the few discussions that you’ve had, you know they just get you. Even if you thought it was impossible, via the internet and the broad network it makes available, there is someone else out there somewhere who gets it.
Though not all internet friendships are truly lasting, there are a few that are worth more than all the precious gems in the world. You know them by the fact that when you’ve had a horrible day, you can vent everything to them, and they understand, because they’ve been there – they’ve had those feelings too. And they’re ready and waiting to supply you with all the angry songs you could possibly need, so you can yell the lyrics and vent your anger. (Thanks ♥)
I’ve made some of the best friends via blogging, and I don’t mean that lightly. You guys are my people. You’ve given me a voice and taught me that it’s okay to be myself. It takes a lot for me to trust people, especially because I’ve been ditched so often in the past. But even though we may be separated by thousands of miles, there are blogging friends who understand me way better than most people I know in real life. I hope you know who you are. I love you. And I will always be there for you too, if you need me.