Top Reason I Love Being A Blogger/Reader

Posted February 18, 2014 by Debby in A Personal Note, Memes, Top Ten Tuesdays / 16 Comments

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I’ve taken the ten out of the title, because there’s one big major reason why I love being a blogger and a reader — and that is the group of friends that I’ve made this way.

Let me start by saying that, yes, internet friendships are difficult to judge. You’re obviously not talking to the person, tone is lost, and it takes a lot of trust to get close to them. Sometimes you make mistakes. You think you’re close to someone and then you apparently overstep their boundaries. And then there’s drama. And cold-shoulder treatment. But to be fair, I’m used to this in real life too.

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Much like Katniss, I suck in the friendship arena. What I value above all in friendships is loyalty and honesty. In today’s society, that kind of means you’re doomed. So many fake people in the world. I easily see through their lies and end up hurt. Or over time it becomes clear that they don’t value your friendship. You’re left by the wayside. Trust is a big thing for me. So it’s probably no surprise that my circle of friends is extremely small. But I don’t want your pity. Today I want to talk about the amazing gift blogging gave me: amazing friends.

Blogging opens up an international network. I don’t easily get along with the people in my direct vicinity. In fact, I fail at friendships with people my age most of the time, because while I am still a university student, I don’t care for partying, heavy drinking, hook ups, etc. Put me in a club and I am miserable. People my age, in my area, in my classes? They really don’t get that. “How could ANYONE not care for partying? You’d rather stay home and read a book? Ew. So boring. You hermit. Oh, you’re on Twitter? …Ugh.”

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Well, news flash: I’m not alone. No, via blogging, I’ve met so many people like me – to whom partying is a rare thing, and a night with a book and a cup of tea sounds like heaven. Readers are not boring shut ins. They are intelligent, compassionate, emotional, and social in their own way, on their own time. They are introspective and, through reading so many books, have a great understanding of the human condition. If I have a problem, I’m feeling down, or I’m troubled by something, give me a reader to vent to, because I know they’re likely to understand and give good advice.

It’s not always easy, though. The person is sitting thousands of miles away, behind a computer. You may not even really know what they look like. (Some people still think I’m a tiny orange, bah.) Contact via internet is also easy and rather effortless, so whether the friendship actually means something to them can be difficult to judge. But with others you know instantly. You click. You may not even talk that much, but through the few discussions that you’ve had, you know they just get you. Even if you thought it was impossible, via the internet and the broad network it makes available, there is someone else out there somewhere who gets it.

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Though not all internet friendships are truly lasting, there are a few that are worth more than all the precious gems in the world. You know them by the fact that when you’ve had a horrible day, you can vent everything to them, and they understand, because they’ve been there – they’ve had those feelings too. And they’re ready and waiting to supply you with all the angry songs you could possibly need, so you can yell the lyrics and vent your anger. (Thanks ♥)

I’ve made some of the best friends via blogging, and I don’t mean that lightly. You guys are my people. You’ve given me a voice and taught me that it’s okay to be myself. It takes a lot for me to trust people, especially because I’ve been ditched so often in the past. But even though we may be separated by thousands of miles, there are blogging friends who understand me way better than most people I know in real life. I hope you know who you are. I love you. And I will always be there for you too, if you need me.

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A song to sum up my love:


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16 responses to “Top Reason I Love Being A Blogger/Reader

    • Awww, thanks 🙂 Totally agree, I feel at home with my blogger friends. I don’t often feel like I can be myself like that in real life.

  1. Wait…you’re NOT a tiny orange?

    Oh.

    I’m loving all of these posts but yours takes the biscuit because it hits the nail on the head. It’s not just book bloggers, but all these internet communities allow us to find people that truly share our passions.

    I’m very lucky to have a great circle of friends ‘IRL’ but I used to keep my social media side completely separate from them because I didn’t think they would understand. These days I don’t care so much, but I’m sure they don’t really get it still. At least, not the extent of time and energy I expend on the internet.

    I’m a passionate person when it comes to the things I enjoy. My friends on the internet share that same intense passion and I never feel like I’m going on too much, or revealing some dark depths of myself. It’s just normal to talk this way with these people and it’s super important.

    That was my very long winded way of saying that I really loved this post. You put it into words way more eloquently than I could!
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  2. Ini

    Lovely post, Debby!! Interacting with fellow bloggers make me feel relaxed. I totally agree with your statement I’d rather stay at home reading book. This is exactly what I tell m friends and they give me a look. Anyways I’m used to that, I love reading. Thanks for an eloquent post, Hugs <3333
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  3. Internet friendships are at once easier and harder than IRL friendships. It’s much easier to start out, I think, and much more low pressure, but it’s hard to gauge how much it’s a REAL friendship.

    “What I value above all in friendships is loyalty and honesty. In today’s society, that kind of means you’re doomed.” <- MY FEELS. But yes, the people who end up being my real friends value the fact that I won't lie to them, but most people don't appreciate it at all. Also, I have major trust issues because of a whole bunch of two-faced "friends" when I was growing up, so I'm super sensitive about friend things which is also not good for friend-having.

    Ugh, clubs. I've been dragged there a number of times, and, while I don't mind the dancing, I'd be much happier just dancing with my friends at one of their places. Like, I do not want to be grabbed by strangers or stepped on or spilled on. Bleh.

    Blogging is the place of kindred spirits. Like J. Law. I want to believe that if she new me, we would be pals. This is probably a fantasy, but whateverrrrrr.

    "Readers are not boring shut ins. They are intelligent, compassionate, emotional, and social in their own way, on their own time." THIS. A MILLION TIMES THIS.

    YOU ARE NOT AN ORANGE. MY WORLD IMPLODED JUST NOW.

    JK. You are actually a surprisingly tall person. Though I will not be able to actually conceive of this until I stand next to you and am like HUH.

    Haaaa, the angry songs.

    So last year and this year also, all of my vacations have been visits to bloggers. I regret nothing.
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  4. AWWW I love this post. It’s so true though. I was just thinking earlier today how bloggers are my people. Y’all just are. Of course I don’t get along with everyone, but that’s the same in real life. I’m a lot like you in the friend department. I do have a lot of friends, but I keep a very tight circle of those I consider “true” friends. Honestly, some of my best friends have come from the book blogging community. I’ve had the opportunity to meet this people IRL, and from then on I knew they would be in my life forever. I think that’s amazing. Fifty years ago, this never would have happened. We never would have been able to connect with people from all over the world who get our love of reading. It’s pretty amazing if you think about it.
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  5. I love this post! It makes me realize how I really need to put myself out there more in the blogging world because there clearly are so many people who feel the same way I do! I too value loyalty and honesty but it is really hard to find people in real life who actually feel the same way. I think a lot of people will say that they value those traits but their actions don’t quite align which is incredibly disappointing.

    I’m shocked that you aren’t an Orange in real life. *Mind blown*
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  6. You’re right, we readers are social in our own way in our own time. Love the same book we do? Instant best friend. Not a reader? why are we even talking? lol

  7. This is a truly lovely post, Debby! I absolutely have to agree. One of the best things about being a reader who blogs is finding this incredible community of friends all over the world who share my passion for reading. I’ve learned to accept the fact that, unlike most of my IRL friends, reading is a true passion for me, an activity I prefer above just about most things, thanks to friends who “get” it. So yes, I totally get where you’re coming from with this post — and I love it!
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  8. Yes x 10000000. Internet friendships are still equally fraught for me (because Shae = awkward turtle), but it’s fantastic to geek out about something and know that other people are geeking out just as much! Also, the next time someone gives you a hard time for staying in, tell them you know a feisty Floridian who will kick their tail. 😉
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  9. I’m new here, first time reader actually, but this post literally grabbed my attention and I had to leave a comment. Because I wanted to let you know how much I can relate with what you said, and how much I agree with you on this.

    You have a small circle of friends in RL, I have none at all. And you know what? People (usually ex-friends I happen to see around sometimes) always judge me as the poor girl with no friends, the one who will end up regretting her whole life once she reaches 50. I always tell the to literally… well, I won’t use bad words here because that’s rude, but I’m sure you get what I mean! 🙂 And then, I keep doing what makes me happy, so reading and entertaining myself with all that stuff they keep calling lame. And I’m happy, truly happy.

    Then there’s blogging, which is able to connect people with the same interests and is there where you get actual friends. Because even if you don’t know their faces, those people are the ones able to understand you and, most importantly, able not to judge you.

    You know what? I prefer “faceless” people that are real, than known faces wearing a fake mask.

    Again, beautiful post here! 🙂
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  10. I’m a little behind on my blogging posts, but I’m making my way through them! Wonderful post Debby. Blogging is completing my life. I have a way to talk about books and I even got to met you and the other book club members. I never thought I would do such a thing in my life and my blog made it possible for me 😀 It’s such a good feeling to be part of the blogosphere!
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